Thanksgiving can be a stressful time if you do not get along well with family members. Make this year different with our guide to surviving the holiday.
Rules to follow
Take some preventative measures
If you have been feuding with a family member that will be in attendance, take the necessary steps to end the fight before the holiday. This allows you to walk in knowing there are no residual stressors that could be reignited.
Prep yourself on your way there
In the car on your way over, think about what you do and do not want to happen today. You cannot change how others will act, but you can change your own response. Since you can probably guess what everyone in your family will do or say throughout the day, imagine what response would work best for you.
Don’t drink too much
You may find yourself repeatedly pouring yourself drinks as your stress level increases. Doing this will up your chances of saying something you may regret. Instead, try walking away from stressful situations.
Most people eat to the point of being uncomfortable on Thanksgiving. Doing this ensures you will be irritable after your meal, and could be a catalyst for unnecessary arguments. Eat like you would on an average day to avoid preventable stress (remember, there’s always leftovers).
The holiday is a time to be thankful for all the good things in your life. Even though there are times when family can be stressful, many people do not have family to spend the holiday with. With that in mind, try your best to remain positive. Instead of looking for the negative things your family will do today, look for the positive and let your family know you are thankful for these things.
This topic of the week was written by Danielle Adinolfi, MFT