- Assess the possibility of reconciliation. If there is a chance that you and your partner can reconcile then do not begin to date. If you can still picture yourself with your spouse it’s time reevaluate. Don’t enter anything you are not prepared for.
- Be honest with yourself, your spouse, and your new admirer. Be mindful of all involved parties. Everyone should be on a similar page. You need to be prepared to enter the dating world and you need to be upfront with whomever you begin to date. If you have children, think about how your actions will affect them.
- Be mindful of legal implications. Dating can negatively alter the divorce settlements in certain situations.
- Realize that everyone won’t agree with your decision. You can’t expect everyone to agree or understand your position. There will likely be criticism but the best thing to do is focus on your comfort level with the situation.
Divorce is typically a difficult time in most people’s lives and adding dating to the equation can make the situation even harder. A therapist can help all parties navigate through the stress and confusion that can sometimes occur. The therapists here at Philadelphia MFT are well trained to help couples, families, and individuals maneuver through this transitional period. Please call or email us if you or anyone you know is experiencing the effects of dating and divorcing.
This topic of the week was written by Malyka Cardwell, MFT