Giver: Sometimes all a person needs is someone to hear them out. They may not be looking for any advice, just an open ear.
Receiver: Venting can be therapeutic but be careful not to over do it. Do not take advantage of the person providing you support. They have issues as well. Do not overlook them.
Point out the Positive
G: One of the greatest things you can do for someone is encourage them to be the best version of themselves. Let them know that you believe in them. Combat negativity by pointing out the person’s strengths and attributes that you admire. Be optimistic but do not lose sight of realism.
R: When you are not feeling your best, it can be hard to believe a person’s kind words. Recognize that you are worth the praise you are receiving. Adopt an optimistic attitude.
G: Everyone has differences. Do not compromise your own beliefs in order to help someone else with theirs. If you object to what a person is doing, you are not obligated to pretend that you do not. Explain your position. Avoid condemning.
R: Recognize that you will not get the type support you want all of the time. Accept that everyone may not see your vision. Hear the person out; sometimes there are valid points in their argument.
These were just a few tips to help you incorporate some form of support into your daily routine. Life is hectic and it can be hard to advocate for yourself let alone, someone else. Learn to take the time to expend positive energy to your loved ones and also learn to accept the positive energy you receive back. Here at Philadelphia MFT we pride ourselves on providing support to our clients, colleagues, and community. If you feel that you are lacking the tools to receive or dish out support, please contact us.
This topic of the week was written by Malyka Cardwell, MFT.