- When the person is physically present but psychologically unavailable. Examples include children who are living with a parent with a mental diagnosis or an addiction.
- When the person is physically absent but psychologically present. This includes family members of those who are actively serving in the armed forces or children living with only one parent due to separation/divorce.
- Difficulty managing changes
- Feeling paralyzed when trying to make decisions
- Experiencing guilt, depression and anxiety
- Address the ambiguity that you are feeling regarding the relationship.
Understanding what ambiguous loss is and how it can impact you can help you better understand the feelings you are having. Addressing how paralyzing it is to live with ambiguity can be relieving in itself.
- Identify what has been lost.
Pin pointing what the loss means to you can help you get through painful emotions.
- Recognizes what triggers your feelings of loss
Identifying events, dates, experiences that can trigger the negative emotions surrounding the loss is beneficial to coping with it.
- Release your expectations around the loss
Relinquishing your expectations around how the relationship ended can help you move forward with the loss. Understanding that your grief won't be fixed in a certain amount of time will give you the opportunity to process your emotions in a healthy way.
This topic of the week was written by Alanna Gardner, MFT