- Acknowledge that you are venting. If you are sharing your feelings with someone else, it is important to let them know your intentions. Whether you desire input or just an open ear, it necessary to express how you would like the conversation to proceed. It is also important to check in on your listeners’ emotions prior to venting. Make sure it is a good time for them before opening up.
- Choose your listener wisely. The person you decide to vent to should be someone that you know will view things objectively. You should be able to trust this person and have confidence that the things you release will not be shared beyond the two of you. Avoid venting to anyone who is the source of any of the negativity you want to release in order to ensure that there is no confrontation. Arguing while venting can lead to an increase in negative emotions instead of the decrease that was originally sought out.
- Allow yourself to be expressive. You have already spent a good portion of your time bottling in your emotions. Venting is the time to let them out. It is acceptable to cry. It is normal to feel overwhelmed or lost. You may find yourself getting angry. Do not run from these experiences. Sit with them and release them before you become destructive.
- If you’re not comfortable with involving another person while venting then write your thoughts and feelings down. All of them. Go somewhere where you won’t be distracted and just write.The goal is to acknowledge your negative emotions and release them. Don’t stop until everything that comes to mind is written out in front of you. You do not have to share this information with anyone else.
This topic of the week was written by Malyka Cardwell, MFT.