Have reasonable expectations for Valentine's Day
Frequently Valentine's Day plans turn out to be lackluster due to too high or not mutually shared expectations of the importance/purpose of the day. Some people view the holiday as extremely valuable while others do not. To alleviate this issue you may want to reevaluate what the holiday means to you as well as your purpose for wanting to plans. If you're going on a date or spending some time with a long term partner; take the time to ask whether or not doing something special for Valentine's Day is even an option for this year or if they see the day as something valuable to your relationship.
Create a shared experience
If you and whoever you're spending Valentine's day with decide to make plans, create a shared experience. Focusing on an activities that both of you will enjoy will create feelings of joy and connection while also developing a memory that you both can be fond of. Take it to the next level by participating in an activity that neither of you have done before. Couples who try new things together tend to have happier relationships.
Detach from the outside world
Giving your valentine (not your phone) your full and undivided attention is extremely important to having a great valentine's day. Focusing on the evening will allow you both to get the most out of whatever it is you're doing and it keeps you away from anything that can distract you. It's also beneficial to not see posts/tweets about other people's date nights: no need to compare what you're doing to what someone else is doing. Comparison is the thief of joy, so be confident and appreciate what you've done for your someone special.
Valentine's day shouldn't be filled with heartaches and headaches. Follow these tips and make the most out of this special day.
This topic of the week was written by Alanna Gardner, MFT