Set time aside for you to do the things that you enjoy. Other people can be included but it’s also ok to do these things alone. Do not be scared to branch out by yourself. It’s ok to take some me time.
Maintain relationships with people outside of your new situation. Keeping in touch can be hard sometimes but make an effort to at least check in with the people you were close with before. Meet up as often as your schedules permit. These outside interactions are so important to have. Interacting with other people gives you the ability to vent and regroup.
Create boundaries. Learn what your comfort level is and don’t feel bad for saying no to things that are unreasonably outside of it. It’s ok to say no to things that don’t work for you. Use compromise and communication to create a safe space that feels good for you.
Maintaining a sense of identity while in a new relationship can be a difficult task. If you are struggling to hold to who you are or struggling to rediscover yourself, the therapists of Philadelphia MFT are here to help. Do not hesitate to reach out to us!
This Topic of the Week was written by Malyka Cardwell, MFT.