- Distance: When the distance between friends changes, friction can arise. It can be difficult for people to adjust to not seeing each other consistently. It can also be hard to adjust to seeing a friend frequently, when you are not used to it. The change in distance creates new patterns, and it often becomes harder to interact in the same manner you once did.
- Change in Values: As people grow, their morals and values often change. This can be particularly hard to deal with in friendships, especially when friends grow in opposite directions. Common values serve as the foundation for most friendships. When this foundation is fractured, the friendship is likely next.
- Different Life Trajectories: You know exactly what you want to do with your life and your friend is feeling stuck. Your friend works a full time job and you enjoy going out to clubs every night. These are common scenarios that arise as people transition through life. It can be difficult to interact when you feel like you are on a different page than your friend. If you feel like you cannot relate to your friend or vice versa, the relationship can become strained. Being able to relate is a major factor that keeps friendships intact and if that is missing, the friendship suffers.
- New Relationship Addition: Whether it be a new romance, family addition, or friendship; it is often difficult for people to balance new and old relationships. Problems can arise when old friends feel neglected, especially when the neglect is attributed to the newer addition.
This topic of the week was written by Malyka Cardwell, MFT.