1. Have an open and honest discussion about it. It will be of extreme importance to be open and honest with your partner throughout your transition to an open relationship.
2. Set ground rules. Relationship are not one size fits all, so decide together what will work best for both of you. For example, many couples enact a rule that all hook-ups must be discussed while others have a “don’t ask don’t tell” policy. It might be helpful to write down the ground ruled and discuss the details at length until you are both comfortable with your list.
3. Start slow and take it one step at a time. It is important for you both to ease into this transition, as it will likely be different from anything you have experienced before.
4. Bring up concerns as soon as they arise. Uncomfortable feelings may occur, and they should be talked about immediately to avoid resentment.
5. The most important rule is to remember that the open relationship should be enhancing your relationship, not hurting it. If at any point it becomes something that is bringing you down as a couple, take a step back and decide if this is what is best for you both.
If you and your partner are still concerned about how to begin, consider seeing a couple’s therapist to help you work out and discuss the details. The therapists of Philadelphia MFT have experience helping couple’s successfully navigate this process. Connect with us via our contact page, or email us at Contact@PhiladelphiaMFT.com.