1. Help Come to Terms About the Decision
Most people who seek therapists during this time already have their mind made up about their decision to separate. What can be explored in therapy is the emotions and events that unfold from that decision. Separation and divorce is a traumatic event that most people won't understand until they go through it. Involving a Marriage and Family Therapist that is trained to study and deal with the issue can better prepare you for the fallout of a separation or divorce.
2. Give You Coping Mechanisms
Again separating or divorcing from someone you built a life with and at one time made you happy is extremely painful. You will need to develop healthy coping skills for dealing with negative emotions, stressful interactions and new relationships. A therapist can assist you in developing the tools needed to get you through stressful legal proceedings, uncomfortable meetings and difficult conversations.
3. Gain Perspective on What Went Wrong
Oftentimes people associate divorcing with feelings of failure, which can take a toll on an individual's self-esteem and confidence with future relationships. Processing those feelings and gaining an understanding on why a relationship fell apart can help you heal, gain closure, and confidently move forward by not repeating old patterns in your new relationships.
4. Practical Advice Involving Children & Family
When a couple chooses to end their relationship, they are not the only ones impacted. Mutual friends, family members and specifically children are also affected by divorce. Marriage and Family Therapists can help you create healthy boundaries with all parties impacted and give you the tools to have those difficult conversations with people in your life so that they too can adjust to your life change.
5. Assisting in Adjusting to Life Post Separation/Divorce
Whether it's figuring out a way to co-parent with your ex, get back into the dating world, or grieving the loss of your relationship, Marriage and Family therapist are here to help you adjust to your new-found single life. The change can be difficult, but an MFT can help you re-frame the change into something positive that will benefit you in the future.
Marriage and Family Therapists are here to help you through the trauma of separation and divorce. Although there will be times of pain and difficulty, having a therapist can help you process and get through it all. Email or call Philadelphia MFT if you or someone you know is interested in having one of our skilled therapists be an ally during a separation or divorce. Also visit Main Line Law's website, www.mainlinedivorcemediator.com, to learn more about mediation; a healthier more supportive option to divorce.
This topic of the week was written by Alanna Gardner, MFT